Letter to My College Friends
I couldn’t sing my love for you from a mountain, so ANNA will have to do.
We’re all relatively well versed (or trying to be at least) in the intricacies of making adulthood work. If you’re anything like me, looking for a career path is hard, but you’re coming to terms with reality and making it work. Feeding myself? A habitual pain in the rump, but at least the freezer is stocked with Bagel Bites. Dressing myself? Proving difficult after a harsh breakup with my collegiate tees, but at least I’m rolling out of bed. As I sometimes struggle to make ends meet and hold myself together, I often forget some of the most important people: the ones who struggled to make ends meet by my side for the past four years and helped hold me together when I couldn’t do it myself. These friends are some of the most significant parts in my life thus far, but between significant others, school, jobs, moving, bills, you name it, the hang-outs aren’t happening anymore. How in the world am I supposed to juggle these friendships AND everything else? To my college friends out there, some of the strongest and most beautiful people I know, I have no idea, but here are some promises I intend to keep.
To my college roommates:
To the ones who have seen it all, I miss you. We thought spending every waking hour together was too much, but I’d go back in a heartbeat. You’ve seen me ugly cry, suffered through me singing in the shower, and we’ve shared as many clothes as secrets. I promise to keep you informed. You know everything about me, so let’s not change that as time goes on. Snapchat, group text, call, write letters, and do whatever you need to in order to share your life with me. I’ll do the same.
To my first college friends:
You helped shape me as an adult, so thank you. We learned how to do laundry, how to talk to boys, and how to procrastinate before exams together. The years went by and we made new friend groups, but you’ll always be in my heart. I promise to call you more often, because even though we see each other rarely, the moments when we do are magical.
To the friends who chose the other road:
Surprise! We went to different schools and we both made it. The years were rough not having you by my side every day, but we survived and we’re way stronger now. Your phone calls and our spontaneous hangouts kept me going when I needed it most. We made different friends the past few years and have different stories to share, but you’re just as special to me. I promise to continue those phone calls and random dates, even when my schedule gets more packed. We’ve made it this far, so lets keep going (plus, our future kids will look cute together in matching outfits).
To the late-blooming friendships:
We spent years walking past each other and never saying a word, but one day fate brought us together. I’m not sure how I never spoke to you all those years, and I promise it will never happen again. Thank you for coming along and spicing up my life, especially after I thought I’d determined my identity. It’s sometimes easy to let the lives we already established get in the way of spending time together, but I’m going to make an effort not to let that happen.
To all the college friends who were special to me, you still are. Thank you for being a part of my life. Help to hold me accountable to these promises. Help me to plan mixers and parties where I can see all of you at once. Skype me when you have a spare moment. I’ll shoot you a text when I’m thinking of you. Let’s vow not to let life get in the way of what we have, even when it’s hard.
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