Are You Your Friend Group's Mom?

 Art by Aria Feliciano

Art by Aria Feliciano

It’s not uncommon for us to label each member of our friend group according to their personality: there’s the weird friend, the rebel, the smart one, the funny one, the fashionable one, etc. You probably don’t have every friend type in your group, but usually every group has a “mom” friend. You know the kind I’m talking about. The one who brings you soup and crackers when you’re sick or teaches you how to use a Swiffer. Sometimes it’s easy to tell if you’re the “mom” friend; for instance, having my friends call me Mama Sarah is a pretty big hint. But if your group nickname doesn’t give it away, here are some other signs that you just might be the “mom” friend.

  1. You keep Rolaids and Tylenol in your purse. Being prepared for a sudden onset of heartburn or a headache is a clue that you’re the “mom” friend. Your friends can always count on you to bring along any potentially necessary meds when you all go out.
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  2.You advise your friends not to get drunk for the fourth night in a row. In this case, you’ve probably been dubbed a “buzzkill” for suggesting a night-in watching Netflix rather than partying.

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3.You’re good at money management. What twentysomething is money conscious, anyway? You are! And your ability to avoid impulse buys is awe-inspiring to your friends. 

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4. You do laundry on a regular basis. This somehow makes you “responsible.” While everyone else is wearing the same sweatshirt they slept in to class or work, you at least have on a clean t-shirt.

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5.You know your friend’s “misplaced” scarf is in the third draw on the right-hand side of their dresser. In my experience, moms typically have an innate power to just know where your things are. If you also have this uncanny talent (whether you’re an actual mom or not), that’s a clear sign that you are the “mom” friend. 

We all have that one friend who seems to take care of the rest of the group. If it’s you, I’m here to tell you that it is completely and totally okay to be the “mom” friend. Your friends love knowing they can count on you for advice or a shoulder to cry on. It’s not a bad thing to be responsible, and it doesn’t mean you don’t know how to let loose. Plus, pretending to be somebody you’re not is exhausting, trust me. It’s much more freeing to just be yourself, and if that means holding the title of the “mom” friend, own it.