Dear BossBitch: Should I Wear My Wedding Ring to an Interview?

Dear Bossbitch,

Should I wear my wedding ring at job interviews? I already look young; will the wedding ring be another point against me? Will it make me look like a kid playing at being an adult?

Art by Meagan Guild

Art by Meagan Guild

Dear BossBling, 

 I had to think about this one for a while. Not married myself, I never considered it. The Internet provided conflicting advice, as the Internet is known to do from time to time. So consider this piece another worthy addition to the wealth of conflicting advice. 

I think the ring will have the opposite affect you’re expecting. While you feel your young face will make future employers think you’re inexperienced or green, I think your wedding ring will show maturity and commitment. 

Our generation isn’t marrying, buying houses, or having kids at the same rate as our parents’ generation. There are a lot of complicated factors that go into this (many of which can be blamed on the Baby Boomers and crippling student debt). But proudly showing your commitment to a future with your spouse should be encouraging to your future employer. It shows you can make a decision and stick with it.

 It’s not the 1950s anymore; No one will disregard you because they think your husband is about to put the little woman away in a house in the country. And if someone does think that? Well, you do not want that job anyway. Also that company might be some sort of Stepford Wives situation, and you should run far, far away. 

The only thing I would caution against is sporting a giant rock, but maybe not for the reason you think. A simple wedding band? Absolutely! A big-ass sparkly diamond? Maybe not. I’m going to give you the same advice my high school drama teacher gave me; “No distracting jewelry in auditions. This draws your audience away from what you’re saying.” It’s shocking how often my high school drama teacher features in these pieces. But his advice for auditions is solid advice for making a good first impression in any context: Hair out of your face, no noisy shoes, be confident, don’t apologize for your presence, and no distracting clothing or jewelry. 

You should not worry about wearing your ring, which ultimately is a symbol of commitment. I can’t see how any decent employer would see a wedding ring and think anything other than an committed adult who knows what she’s about.